This book spoke to me like no other. I know I was right in feeling how I felt. Being validated for all of it feels so liberating!

I've always thought that my divorced parents exhibited emotional maturity, ( I thought that I coined the term until i found this book) and I was shocked to discover that this is actual a vast problem that's been studied. I found this book doing a search on the term and I found great insight into this parenting problem that exist between children and their parents. This huge imbalance of not receiving the proper nurturing and guidance, as a child because you're the adult in the room. The author quickly breaks down the reason it exists, the issues that you parent never dealt with and resolved prior to becoming a parent and lastly how it effects the empathic child. It also explains if you have siblings why they do not respond, process or interact with the parent(s) the same way as you do. I'm so glad that I purchased the book and I sent it to a friend already, another solider in this war. It's given powerful tools that I was able to put into play immediately to elevate my stress level in dealing with an aging parent. An easy read that jumps right into the issues and gives great solutions along the way. You are not alone.

This book is enlightening. It is truth. It will take work. But I think it is worth it - choosing to understand, and move on.

I bought this book 3 years ago and just read it this year. Even if all of your physical needs were taken care of as a child, if you struggle as an adult with relationships or feel like something is just off about your family of origin, take a chance and read this. Now. It has resolved issues that I have wondered about for years and provided much needed clarity and freedom to live life to the fullest. Do not wait. You might not be ready to read the whole thing right away, but you should have it near you when you are. The good news: the moment you feel your lowest might be a chance to utterly redefine the way you view your life in a manner that will lead you to a place where you are whole.

again, free therapy lol. I was able acknowledge how much my parents emotionally influenced me in multiple ways. These could subconscious patterns they developed as a child and continued as an adult/parent. I realize how much I may deal with things that can be emotionally immature as well. definitely a good one for self-improvement and validation on emotions you experienced as a child & still experience as a adult.

I read this book in a day. It breaks down the common patterns and issues and how to deal with them objectively in a logical way. Author uses simple and clear language. Very easy to read and helpful book.

This was such an important read for me, especially with my goal of having better/different relationships with my parents. That being said, I cried at several points while reading it because of how much I related to the content. It helped me realize how neglected I was and what my expectations should be in the future. The book includes really helpful information. Most notable to me were the checklists the author provides to help identify your situation and which sections of the book will be most applicable. If you found your way to reading this review, I think you need to read the book as well.

I bought for my daughter to help her with her new daughter but I found it very helpful for me . I sent to my older sister and she found it so helpful it made her a bit depressed. Great read

This book goes down as one of the most impactful books I have read in a long time. Genuinely eye-opening and life-changing. Reading this book was gutting at times, but in that good sort of way, as when something helps you to properly see and understand a source of pain in life, and the role of both other's and one's own self in maintaining or changing it. Much gratitude to the author.

estou digitando com os pés porque com as mãos eu estou aplaudindo KKKK 😝 leitura excelente para fazermos uma autorreflexão e entendermos nossos pais e a dinâmica da nossa família. a autora explica tudo de uma forma fácil de entender e terminamos o livro com o coração quentinho e cheio de esperança ✨ mal terminei o livro e já quero relê-lo, recomendo demais! já quero ler os outros livros da autora porque a escrita dela é maravilhosa! 💛

I felt identified with everything in this book. bought it to recommend it to my patients, but I recommend this to ANYONE. Great brook

It was a gift but I think everything is good

This is such a wonderfully informative, interesting book. If you grew up not being obviously abused, but still suffer greatly from the way your parents treated you, then I imagine this is a great book for you, as it was me. The way it describes situations and experiences, really hit home. It put into words, feelings and experiences I have had for many years, but could not process or articulate to myself or others. I diligently read this book and will keep it to hand to refer back to. It has already helped improve my mental health surrounding my parents, and helped me communicate with them better to where I am not as triggered and upset as before. I am able to observe their behaviour and remember the book and then process everything in a healthier way. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles with their relationship with their parents.